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Private applause keeps things comfortable.
Public support changes culture.

I live in a society that has historically othered Autistic people and judged and often corrected my Autistic way of living and being. This angers me even as I write this. I use my anger as motivation, and I use my voice to push unconscious cultural comfort of conformity and sameness. A cultural comfort that creates unsafety for so many Autistic people and people of other minority communities.

And in challenging comfort .. I don’t feel comfortable with private thank yous.

Thanks, but no thanks.

People who challenge the status quo — who speak about identity, systems, stigma, or collective change — often receive a lot of private support.

“Thank you for saying that.”
“That meant so much.”
“I’m so glad someone said it.”

And while those messages come from a good place. We need to be braver in our values, our beliefs and what we stand for. And what we choose to no longer silently go along with.

I understand that publicly aligning yourself with challenging conversations can feel vulnerable, risky, exposing.

But if we don’t publicly show support for voices that are pushing culture forward, how does culture ever shift?

I am asking for reflection. If you are following accounts that challenge status quo, challenge us to reconsider norms that you wish were no longer there, if you wish society was safer, braver, can you be braver in your engagement?

When we like, comment, reshare — we’re not just supporting a person.

We’re increasing visibility.
We’re normalising brave conversations.
We’re signalling what we stand for.
We, you and I, are part of making society safer for diversity. Safer for all.

Visibility is part of change.

Note: My DMs are always open for connection, support, and honest conversation. I care deeply about creating safe spaces. This post isn’t about shutting down private dialogue — it’s about encouraging public alignment with the values you hold.

I finally have a copy in my hands and I’m not sure I have words yet.

HormoneFULL, not Hormonal began as a question.
Why are so many Autistic women describing puberty, cycles, pregnancy and perimenopause as seismic… and yet being met with silence?

This book is a collective answer.

160 pages.
One year of listening.
101 voices.

Inside are not only lived narratives, but clear, practical guidance on how we can better support Autistic people through hormonal transitions — in homes, in schools, in healthcare settings, and in community.

It is a tribute to those who were shushed.
And a validation for those still trying to make sense of their body.

Holding this feels… full circle. 🤍

Available now via the link in my bio.
Limited first print run.

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‘HormoneFULL, not Hormonal: 101 Stories of Lived Experience - Guidance from Autistic Womenn& AFAB Adults Across the Hormonal Lifespan’ is available now via my website www.christinedoyle.ie

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When 101 Autistic AFAB voices shared their experiences of hormonal transitions with me, I knew immediately I had something that we all need to know, that needed to be shared, that needs to be heard.

These people for the most part had held this internally never voicing their struggles, or never being heard.

They are now.
“HormoneFULL, not Hormonal: 101 Stories of Lived Experience - Guidance from Autistic Women & AFAB Adults Across the Hormonal Lifespan” is available via my website now www.christinedoyle.ie

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We have missed so much … so many women lost, internalising their experiences and not recognised as neurodivergent until hormones hit .. hard